I sit all my clients down on the couch for a chat before we begin a conscious sexuality session of any kind be it an escort, erotic massage, erotic ritual, kinky session or a lesson in deeper pleasure. I say, “Tell me why you are here. What do you *really* want to experience? You were drawn to have a session with me because… Why? What are you hoping will happen? If you were to leave here saying “Wow! That was a fantastic session I really had an amazing experience!” what would have happened to make you feel that way?”
They don’t just describe the physical activities they hope for or the parts of my body they are attracted to… We get into a discussion that allows them to explore what they *really* want deep inside. We then discuss where I am willing and able to meet them and where I can’t. We set boundaries, create safe space where we both agree to explore and the session begins from a conscious place.
This makes the session a lot more satisfying for both of us. It shifts it from being a routine experience to something more real and potent. We get to actually engage as holistic sexual beings not just bodies. – Artemisia de Vine