Had a fabulous time in the sun today, sipping coffee and having book-gasms. That wonderful feeling when someone has put into words things you’ve been intuiting for years… It set off a riot of inspiring ideas inside me.
(In case you are curious I was reading ‘Inner Work: Using dreams and Active Imagination for Personal Growth’ by Robert A Johnson, a Jungian analyst).
Really, when it comes down to it, the most important focus of my life that guides all my other choices is the inner work of bringing the unconscious into conscious alignment. Sex and BDSM just happen to be my tools and what fabulous tools they make because they are natural gateways between the conscious and the unconscious aspects of us. Sexual states of consciousness open the way to the symbolic realms just like dreams do, only sex also brings it into the embodied experience. In that sense sex and bdsm are natural shamanic rituals.
Approaching sexuality with awareness has the potential to rip the fabric of our reality open and directly expose us to the most potent, authentic, powerful and precious moments possible. You know that vague feeling that something is missing? That there should be more to sex? To life? Conscious sexuality leads us home to fulfil that nameless yearning.
Being conscious about our sexuality is not just about having bigger, better orgasms, though that is often a side effect… No it is about aligning all aspects of ourselves with, well, ourselves… the part of ourselves we are normally unconscious of… which is a giant submerged iceberg… and creating an active feedback loop and dialogue between conscious and unconscious that ripples out into our whole lives, creating meaning, purpose and benefiting all around us in every aspect of existence.
I can’t see how anything else could be more important than consciously engaging with inner work. Some use dance and trance… others use religious ritual or yoga or meditation or art, and others still use sexuality and BDSM. It all has the potential to aim for the same purpose. To align the parts of us we are normally unconscious of but which nonetheless effect every aspect of our lives, with our conscious mind.
When conscious and unconscious are in alignment and then anchored in us through embodiment, we are no longer at war with ourselves and everything flows in the most profound way.
From this perspective, to be a conscious sexuality whore dominatrix is a modern-day shaman… S/he that holds the space and creates the rituals that unite that which is known and that which is unseen within us… linking us to the collective unconscious across time and space.
But most people don’t know that is what they crave… They just know they want a fuck… or crave some fetish… I don’t try to intellectually teach them… I just show them.