My housemate introduced me to the term “fractally wrong” last night. Brilliant term!
For those who do not know what a fractal is, my layman way of describing it is a pattern that is made up of tiny versions of the same pattern… and when you look closer even the little patterns are made up of even smaller versions of the same pattern… which are made up of even smaller versions of the same pattern.
You know when you encounter someone who is blind to their privilege and pronounces truths about those in comparitively non privileged positions but doesn’t get why they are wrong… the white, het, cis male thinking he gets sexism but is clearly basing his whole point of view on assumptions that are products of sexism upon sexism upon sexism… or the well meaning white hippy who thinks they aren’t racist… or the tantra culture that constantly reinforces unconscious disastrous gender roles by their use of the concepts “masculine” and “feminine”… or those outsiders talking about sex work like they really know all about it but don’t get it at all…
You try to explain to them but just can’t because its so overwhelming. In order to tackle the dumb thing they just said you’d have to tackle the assumption that it was based on… and the assumptions that assumption was based on… and the assumptions that those assumptions were based on… yeah that’s fractally wrong.
Too overwhelming to even address especially if you encounter those comments multiple times a day… you just come accross as angry and unreasonable while they think they have the moral higher ground.