Nov 142013
 

FanAs a whore, I don’t want to be treated as a pretty pet to pass the time with.  I choose to be seen as the skilled practitioner in her sexual power and beauty who is capable of taking clients on erotic journeys and experiences into themselves… giving them a chance to feel what it is like to be with a sexually empowered and embodied woman.

Many whores I know are fiercely fabulous, self-aware, connected sexual beings.   The thing is, we are so limited in where we can advertise and get our message out there…  The brothels and the adult services directories frame sex work in a way that is counter to the above implying we are there to simply physical vessels to pleasure submissively… that we are an item on the menu…  sets of physical features with polite customer service formulaic conversational styles.

I see us as more akin to tango teachers and expert dance partners… part counsellor, part companion, part playmate, part sex educator, part priestess to guide you into the erotic mysteries…  Someone with a skill to share and respect.  I see myself as a representative of the archetypal woman,  who knows how to help you explore you inner world through sexual play.

Self discovery… Play… Pleasure…Comfort…. Holistic connection with our whole beings through sexual energy… 

Some advertising sites have done a semi effective job of countering the image that we are merely physical bodies with submissive, pre-scripted phrases but they still don’t quite get it right.  It’s still a case of us having to present ourselves within a framework that assumes certain values and ways of being.   There is still internalized whorephobia and sexism coded into the framework that disadvantages clients and sexuality professionals alike.

Imagine how much would change if we re-framed that whole culture of representation.   What if we choose to think of a whore as a sexual life coach who you approach with respect because they are an expert in their field?  Or a holistic companion to engage with you on all levels?  Then perhaps you can consciously negotiate sexual power roles together… Maybe she or he is more than happy to be the sexual submissive on their knees to please and treat you like royalty… Maybe she or he prefers to be the one who takes the lead and guide you to pleasing them… Or guide you to discovering aspects of yourself you didn’t know were there… Either way is fine.  There is the world of difference in being a sexually submissive woman when that role is consciously negotiated compared to when it is just assumed that all female whores are sexually submissive and subservient.

I draw to me clients who think along those lines.  Many men truly adore women and are respectful, genuine clients who are delighted to discover what is possible down the erotic rabbit hole but the culture of industry itself  makes it hard for them too.  The way we frame sex work needs to change so we can all access juicier play.

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