Hi, my name is Artemisia de Vine and I am a professional dominatrix, switch and domestic discipline spankee. I also offer top shelf, exquisitely sensual, erotic massages and other types of intimate erotic sessions including conscious sexuality sessions.
This sometimes confuses people. Those that want to be held and nurtured fear that my kinky side negates my ability to also be sensual and loving . Those that are wired to want a dominatrix to take full, merciless control doubt my ability to pull that off if I also offer lush sensual sessions.
Sex and/or BDSM are not merely a set of acts but are rather a place we go inside ourselves and a journey into erotic consciousness we share together.
Here’s the thing. All of the above sessions are aiming to get to the same place. In all the above scenarios we are aiming to build tension and then let go and fully open to our erotic experience… To enter into that illusive but divine state of being that allows the “talking mind” to stop chattering… to be fully in the moment… embodied… exquisite surrender… washed over with sensations…
More important than any act performed, it’s a place within us we really crave to enter. It’s primarily a state of consciousness. Everything else is just a means to get us there.
This is one of the main reasons I chose to call myself a Conscious Erotic Arts Practitioner. While the kinds of sessions I offer are broad, they all have one thing in common.
I am a specialist in Erotic States of Consciousness.
We are all aiming for that mystical magical place within us whether we are aware of it or not. Really at the heart of it we are searching for more than the physical release of an orgasm. The truly mind-blowing erotic experiences include our whole being… mind, body, heart and that illusive thing many call soul… They are mind blowing because of the state of consciousness our minds and bodies enter into.
However, each of us is wired uniquely so each person is going to need to explore a different way of getting there. What interests me is working out the puzzle each client presents. I thrive on working out what is going to be the best kind of play for them at this particular point in time.
For some it is an overty sexual or “horny” feeling and for others it is primarily about power play and release. All of it falls under the category of eroticism to me as I use eroticism to mean “eros”… the creative life force that pumps through our veins and motivates us in all sorts of conscious and not so conscious ways. The point is, each person is unique in how they access this within themselves.
Erotic play and meditation have a lot in common.
Recently science has caught up with knowledge us kinksters have known for ages. Kink is the new yoga. It has all the benefits of meditating and exercising. Kinksters often report feeling calm and blissful after play like their system has been re-booted. They often report insights into themselves and a feeling of connectedness with themselves and others.
However, it is not just kink that can have that effect on us… It’s not just pain or power play… it’s sensual pleasure too… Tantra practitioners, Taoists and various other erotic esoteric traditions have been pointing to the potential sexuality has to access profound states of being for thousands of years.
Most of us stumble across the amazing potential sexuality has to access profound and sometimes life altering states of consciousness at some point. Or we at least touch on it… and have a sense there is something more if only we could just get the right set of circumstances together… Maybe we think we need to be in limerence (that fresh new honey moon in-loveness) in order to access it… Perhaps we are waiting for the right lover…
The truth is, while having a lover who is on the same page as you really helps, there are skills we can learn within ourselves that make the likelihood of reaching these ecstatic, erotic states far more likely, far more often, whether we are in a romantic relationship or not. We really don’t need to rely on the temporary high of being newly in love to access this delicious and precious part of ourselves.
The conscious erotic arts are about intentionally cultivating these states of being within ourselves.
The more aware we are about our own unique erotic wiring… the more we develop a deeper relationship with our inner workings… the more conscious we are about it… the further we can go into each experience.
This is not something I can do to someone any more than a tango teacher can do the tango to someone. It is something that can be cultivated however. It also helps considerably to have an experienced play partner whose intention is to create all the right circumstances to enhance potential erotic states of being and experience. It also helps to learn the steps from someone who has danced them many times… Again like the experienced tango teacher…
My role is to guide people into the skills needed to cultivate this way of approaching our eroticism be it kinky or sensual. My sessions include consultations to help each person work out their unique wiring. Together we design a series of play sessions that allow that person to explore their holistic erotic potential in a way that compliments their individual journey.
For some that may be receiving a series of lush full being erotic massages that allow them to just lie back and receive while practicing the techniques I’ve taught them… to enter deeper erotic states of consciousness… to let go, surrender the ego and soar…
For others this may be an intense power exchange session where I am a sadistic bitch from hell and they have no choice but to surrender to the moment… sometimes this leads to state of consciousness kinksters call “subspace” where the sense of time passing is distorted as each moment becomes an eternity yet nothing at the same time… where the ego lets go… the chattering mind ceases.. often accompanied by ecstatic, heart opening bliss…
Are you seeing the common link here? Surrender… letting go of the ego… letting a different, wiser part of ourselves take the drivers seat… A part of us that feel connected as though we are all One…
Like in meditation, the ego doesn’t like giving up the driver’s seat… it will trick us in any way it can to try to hold onto control. Each person will need a different way of approaching their eroticism in order to flick that switch that allows them to let go. Some need to feel super safe, held and nurtured while others like the illusion of another person in control forcing them to let go. Sometimes we need to role play in whatever way is necessary to get something deep inside our unconscious to surrender.
When we do get to that state of being it is exquisite… for many it is a spiritual experience… utterly divine… and has all the same benefits as meditation or yoga only with the added benefit of arousal. Can’t complain about that right!
The point is that when I take on these different roles, dominatrix, switch, spankee, sensual lover, massage practitioner… I am doing so after a thorough consultation process where we both agree to take on the role necessary to aid the person going on the erotic journey.
Does that mean that I am just acting?
Am I just pretending to be a sadistic bitch or a loving erotic nurturer or a bratty spankee? Does that mean I am not a “real” Mistress?
No, it doesn’t. All aspects I offer are naturally within me. I only offer to play roles that are really part of me. I am just really good at drawing on them at will. Within me dwell the full spectrum of personality archetypes… in you too… it is a skill to learn how to draw on them at will and one that I am quite practiced at if I do say so myself ;)
This sounds great! How do I learn these skills?
If you are interested in exploring how to do this, sign up to my mailing lists through the websites listed below to find out about upcoming workshops. You may be particularly interested in my workshop on “Embracing Erotic Shadows through Role Play”. Alternatively you can contact me to discuss a personalised series of sessions that allow you to explore you unique wiring. One of sessions give you a good test taste of this potential but it really is a journey so those that opt to invest in their erotic self discovery and personal sexual development benefit most from a series of sessions.
Despite the common thread between all my sessions, those seeking sensual conscious sexuality and erotic massage sessions prefer not to be exposed to my darker kinky personalities… and vise versa. To respect that, I have two different websites. One is for those who wish to explore Conscious Kink and the other is for those who want to explore the more Sensual Conscious Erotic Arts.
However I personally don’t see a conflict. Both sites represent the real me. I am following my natural inclinations. This sometimes means engaging sensually and intimately and sometimes means explore my perverse power play lust… or sometimes just playing spanking games for the fun of it. It’s all me. When playing with another I search for the place where we naturally overlap and create a session within that space.