Sep 212014
 
Artemisia de vine

Artemisia de vine

I blurted this post out on facebook in the wee hours this morning.  A friend asked to forward it so here it is in sharable blog-form, all rough and raw like my heart…

Ah this familiar nut. How to gently guide new lovers into ways of being that are not modelled after male-arousal-system-centric porn? How to gently let them know that my arousal system just doesn’t work that way and that what they’ve been taught by example their whole life is only half the picture. That they are actually going to have to change from the base assumption up before they become the extraordinary lover I know they can be… Before my needs can truly be met… before their potential pleasure can be significantly and dramatically expanded too…

As a Conscious Sexuality practitioner and Escort I can guide them. They expect it. They seek me out precisely because I will lead them into lived experiences of engaging with their sexuality… and mine… from a much richer place. A place that truly gets female-bodied arousal and taps into far more of their own.

But how to gently guide a personal lover without falling into teacher/work mode and without crushing their ego? Afterall it’s not their fault. The information just hasn’t been available for them to learn in most cases! They are not selfish. They are glorious sexual beings following their delicious intuition and what they’ve been exposed to. Most of them are very eager to please me!

It is just that our whole culture hasn’t even had a language for the kind of sex that fulfils me. Female-bodied folk haven’t even known it about ourselves to ask for it! It’s been cruelly invisible and tucked away in the wordless places on a collective cultural level… Only catching glimpses of it but not truly, intentionally letting it pour on out in the gushing, rushing wonder that is possible.

The female-bodied arousal sexual model that really harnesses our full potential is new for us all. As is embodied mindful sexuality in general. Holistically connected sexuality… conscious sexuality…

It is just not as easy as asking new lovers for certain acts to be done a certain way. The whole damn sexual ideology has to shift in its foundations.

I know how to get there. I cannot be satisfied by the old sexual paradigm anymore. I have to guide my lovers there… but back to the old nut… working out how to show them without ruining everything… It is particularly tricky when I crave someone who can take the lead so I can let go but they are intimidated by my knowledge.

It is such a tricky fix.   Perhaps I am supposed to know the answer already but I don’t.  This unknowing gives me empathy for my lovers and their unknowing.

Artemisia profile pic 2014About the Author: Artemisia de Vine is a Sydney-based escort and conscious erotic arts practitioner who offers sessions that are a mixture of learning, playing and exploring sexuality.  She has two websites, one for those more enticed by the sensual end of the spectrum and one for those more wired to explore kink and BDSM.  You can join her mailing list or follow her on Twitter.

Dec 162013
 

 

temptPleased to announce my upcoming workshops at the Celebrating Sexuality Conference  just outside Melbourne in Feb 14-16.  It is a two-hour introduction to my more in-depth 2 day workshop on this topic.   If you are interested in attending the more extensive version of this or other workshops, be sure to join my mailing list to find out when they are being held.

Artemisia de Vine Goddess of Conscious Kink & the Erotic Arts presents: Embracing our Erotic Shadows through Fantasy & Role Play.

Professional dominatrix, switch & practitioner of the conscious erotic arts, Artemisia brings her expertise and passion for entering into the deeper realms of kink play to life in this workshop.

In this workshop, Artemisia introduces the idea of consciously using role play to engage our vulnerable, hidden, erotic shadows and “forbidden” sexuality in a way that benefits ourselves and our loved ones and allows us to form a deeper, more aware relationship with our shadow selves. She guides you through fun but potent exercises and provides practical tools for creating role play scenes and rituals. There is no nudity and you do not have to share your personal erotic fantasies. Engage in the practical exercises only to whatever level you choose to.

Fantasies often get a bad rap amongst tantra circles as something that takes us away from being fully present and embodied with ourselves and our lovers. Sexual fantasies are toted as acceptable in popular culture but very rarely is their potential to access healing, personal growth and spirituality ever talked about or explored. Often our sexual fantasies are different to our lovers and it can be quite scary to share them. We quite often don’t want to admit we have them ourselves because the nature of fantasy is that of strange dream-like desires, images and urges that drift up from our unconscious mind only when we are aroused. In fantasy we act in ways towards ourselves and each other in way we may not really want to in everyday life. This can be confusing and a source of shame. Artemisia presents an accessible but powerful ways of embracing our shadow selves through fantasy, erotic role play rituals.

Artemisia is a professional and lifestyle kinkster, sex worker, somatic sex coach, workshop facilitator, public speaker, blogger and aspiring author. Trained in sexological bodywork, various forms of neo-tantra, lomi lomi bodywork, BDSM and draws on various esoteric erotic traditions. Her whole life is dedicated to passionately exploring and sharing the erotic arts in aware and delicious ways.

Should you enjoy this introductory workshop and want to explore deeper, Artemisia offers more in-depth one-on-one sessions and lessons and a far more in-depth 2 day workshop on this topic.  Join her mailing list to hear about upcoming opportunities and browse her Conscious Erotic Arts and Conscious Kink websites for current offerings.

Dec 032013
 
Artemisia de Vine

Artemisia de Vine

It’s always so lovely to get feedback from my clients.  I especially love working and playing with those on a journey of erotic awakening who are open and willing to explore and discover just what is possible.   After a consulation together P and I decided on an erotic lomilomi massage based session with drawing on aspects of tantra and kink.   P had already seen a three of my friends and colleagues who also approach sexuality from a conscious or tantric perspective.  We all approach things in our own unique way and have learned from some of the world’s conscious sexuality pioneers. He had learned a lot from them and it was time to explore something new.  This is what he had to say.

“I’ve been on a Tantra discovery journey during 2013. On my Tantra journey, my research frequently spoke about this spiritual massage referred to as Lomi Lomi, which I understand comes from the Hawaiian culture, so it was of interest to receive a great recommendation from the incredible Zoe Montana that Artemisia de Vine, was the Mistress of Lomi Lomi practitioners. Zoe warmly recommended and suggested making contact with Miss de Vine.

As chance had it, Miss de Vine was visiting and an appointment made after a preparatory conversation. After further exploring desired expectations before our session started, another talent of Tantra ladies was reinforced – they all listen and remember these personal discussions – I know this to be true because of the way they weave so much more into the sessions and experiences of the Tantra traveller. Artemisia did this very effectively during the very relaxing and oily Lomi Lomi massage – combined with some erotic kink play and a touch of spanking.

One of the many great experiences in my Tantra journey includes the generosity of spirit, skill and intelligent conversation provided by wonderful guides such as the thoughtful and elegant Olivia ~ Tantrawoman, the delightful and creative goddess Electra Amore, the gracious, accepting and sensual Zoe Montana and now the skilful artisan Artemisia de Vine. In all experiences from Olivia, Electra, Zoe and Artemisia – there is a great sense of pride in ensuring that the experiences they offer, are not just a standard formula of sensual pleasure. They all want to understand the expectations of the Tantric traveller and what they hope to achieve by sharing time together. On viewing the comprehensive web sites offered, the range of skills and experiences offered – but all hark back to the Tantra principles of breath and life.

 Thank you one and all ~ I regard you all so highly as trusted travel companions.

 My thanks to you Artemisia, I clearly enjoyed a wonderfully sensual and exhilarating experience enjoying  fully the skills, explanations, ideas and company that you shared.” – P

 

Nov 142013
 

diamond pussy CEA logoDreaming up a creative photo shoot project for my websites that is giving me goosebumps just thinking about it. Finding ways to channel the archetypes far more than skin deep… Creating images of power, vulnerability, ecstasy, and the sexual version of the hero’s journey… images that reflect the inner work of truly accessing our sexuality… art that calls to the core of heart, cock and cunt, not just tickles the eye…

Join my mailing list to find out when I post new pics.

-Artemisia de Vine-

Diamond pussy pic by Shane from Liquid Light Studios.

Jun 222013
 

Artemisia glamI sit all my clients down on the couch for a chat before we begin a conscious sexuality session of any kind be it an escort, erotic massage, erotic ritual, kinky session or a lesson in deeper pleasure. I say, “Tell me why you are here. What do you *really* want to experience? You were drawn to have a session with me because… Why? What are you hoping will happen? If you were to leave here saying “Wow! That was a fantastic session I really had an amazing experience!” what would have happened to make you feel that way?”

They don’t just describe the physical activities they hope for or the parts of my body they are attracted to… We get into a discussion that allows them to explore what they *really* want deep inside. We then discuss where I am willing and able to meet them and where I can’t. We set boundaries, create safe space where we both agree to explore and the session begins from a conscious place.

This makes the session a lot more satisfying for both of us. It shifts it from being a routine experience to something more real and potent. We get to actually engage as holistic sexual beings not just bodies. – Artemisia de Vine