Sep 212014
 
Artemisia de vine

Artemisia de vine

I blurted this post out on facebook in the wee hours this morning.  A friend asked to forward it so here it is in sharable blog-form, all rough and raw like my heart…

Ah this familiar nut. How to gently guide new lovers into ways of being that are not modelled after male-arousal-system-centric porn? How to gently let them know that my arousal system just doesn’t work that way and that what they’ve been taught by example their whole life is only half the picture. That they are actually going to have to change from the base assumption up before they become the extraordinary lover I know they can be… Before my needs can truly be met… before their potential pleasure can be significantly and dramatically expanded too…

As a Conscious Sexuality practitioner and Escort I can guide them. They expect it. They seek me out precisely because I will lead them into lived experiences of engaging with their sexuality… and mine… from a much richer place. A place that truly gets female-bodied arousal and taps into far more of their own.

But how to gently guide a personal lover without falling into teacher/work mode and without crushing their ego? Afterall it’s not their fault. The information just hasn’t been available for them to learn in most cases! They are not selfish. They are glorious sexual beings following their delicious intuition and what they’ve been exposed to. Most of them are very eager to please me!

It is just that our whole culture hasn’t even had a language for the kind of sex that fulfils me. Female-bodied folk haven’t even known it about ourselves to ask for it! It’s been cruelly invisible and tucked away in the wordless places on a collective cultural level… Only catching glimpses of it but not truly, intentionally letting it pour on out in the gushing, rushing wonder that is possible.

The female-bodied arousal sexual model that really harnesses our full potential is new for us all. As is embodied mindful sexuality in general. Holistically connected sexuality… conscious sexuality…

It is just not as easy as asking new lovers for certain acts to be done a certain way. The whole damn sexual ideology has to shift in its foundations.

I know how to get there. I cannot be satisfied by the old sexual paradigm anymore. I have to guide my lovers there… but back to the old nut… working out how to show them without ruining everything… It is particularly tricky when I crave someone who can take the lead so I can let go but they are intimidated by my knowledge.

It is such a tricky fix.   Perhaps I am supposed to know the answer already but I don’t.  This unknowing gives me empathy for my lovers and their unknowing.

Artemisia profile pic 2014About the Author: Artemisia de Vine is a Sydney-based escort and conscious erotic arts practitioner who offers sessions that are a mixture of learning, playing and exploring sexuality.  She has two websites, one for those more enticed by the sensual end of the spectrum and one for those more wired to explore kink and BDSM.  You can join her mailing list or follow her on Twitter.

Sep 162014
 

Artemisia nude escort CEAIt gives me such a warm glow helping others explore their sexuality.  My client this afternoon was a middle-aged business man from Amercia.  He arrived at my door, straight from Sydney airport, nervous but keen to explore the erogenous potential of the male g-spot.  He had tried a few times before but had not achieved the pleasure he had read was possible from anal and prostate massage.  After reading why my anal massages are so popular he decided it was worth trying a booking with me.

Midway through the experience, all his shy reserve was gone and he was moaning and exclaiming, “This is incredible!  I’ve never felt anything like this before!”

At the end I asked him what his experience was like.  He replied, “I didn’t feel as though I had erogenous zones, I felt like I was one big erogenous zone!”  

My lovers bottomI asked if he had experienced anal orgasm before?  “No this was the first time.  I was felt it several times during that massage.  Incredible feeling!”

He also gave me the feedback, “This was a lot of money for me but  5 minutes in I had the sense that this was a sound investment.  You delivered exactly what you said you would on your website and in person.  You represent yourself accurately.  You listened to what I wanted and gave it to me.”

My style is quite different.  I see the sexual experience as so much more than physical acts and correct technique.  I aim  to facilitate an erotic journey inside my clients that takes into account their whole being.   I use a combination of techniques from sexological bodywork, tantra, lomilomi, Taoism and some I have invented myself from years of helping men explore their g-spots.   It is quite a unique session.

To read more about the types of scenarios possible  see my succulent array of erotic massages here.

Artemisia de Vine

Artemisia de Vine

About the Author:  Artemisia de Vine is a Sydney-based, plus-size Goddess with a greedy appreciation for the erotic arts from the sensual to perverse:  Escort, Erotic Massage Practitioner, BDSM specialist, Mistress, Switch and Spanko. See her websites for the  Sensual through to the Kinky (BDSM).  You can follow her on twitter or subscribe to her mailing list for erotic tips, tours and updates.

 

Mar 312014
 

artemisia anal massage prostate tantra sydneySo nice to get a snail mail letter thanking me for my erotic massage with anal/prostate massage!   Paul from Sydney asked me to type this out for my website as a review as he does not use a computer very well.

“I recently came upon the two websites of Artemisia de Vine and found them very interesting.  I have experience tantric massage before and was looking for something more edgy.  I decided on her anal erotic massage.

I rang and arranged for a 2hr session.  I was met at the door by an attractive, voluptuous lady.  I  went into her studio and we sat down with a cup of tea.  We practiced tantric breath and she explained what would happen in the massage.

erotic massage anal prostate fisting SydneyAfter showering I lay down on the table and after a few strokes I released I was with a lady who really knew what she was doing.  She is certainly gifted at massaging every inch of my body including my anal area and prostate.  I was incredibly pleasing and Artemisia was a delight to be with, with a great sense of humour and the ability to me you feel like a special person.

My 2 hours was up and I soon realised I would have to rejoin the real world.

I am looking forward to our next session as she has almost convinced me to try fisting. It takes a while to prepare the body for this and I am thinking about it.” – Paul, 61yo, Sydney

For those curious about my two websites, I have one focusing on erotic massage and conscious sexuality and one focusing on conscious exploration of kink.  There are several different kinds of massages available.

Read more reviews here…

Read more about what makes my erotic massages for famous here… 

 

Feb 252014
 

erotic massage banner sydneyMy anal and prostate erotic massage sessions are highly skilled and specialised and include full body, hot oil, skin on skin lomilomi to deeply relax you.  They are the ultimate indulgence for long time anal pleasure enthusiasts and curious beginners alike.

If you want to skip straight to how to book, see here… If you’d like to read more about what makes my massages so famous and exquisite, see below.

Why Lomilomi is the perfect compliment to sensual Anal play

Lomilomi is present, deeply sensual, heart centred touch that is designed to override the left and right hemispheres of the mind.  This aids in letting go of your chattering mind so you can become one with the erotic sensations of pleasure.   It’s the perfect complement as it is really important to be deeply relaxed for anal play.

My lovers bottomWe have Two Anal sphincters 

Your anus has two sphincters at the opening.  The outside one you can consciously squeeze and release at will.  Try it now.  See?  The second sphincter, just inside has the first is a different kettle of fish.  You have no conscious control over it.  If you place a finger just inside your anaus you will feel the second sphincter pulse but you can’t control whether it relaxes or not.  It’s this sphincter that hurts if someone just rushes on in before you are ready.

Teasing and Seducing you Open

In order to get that second sphincter to relax you need to relax all over.  I teach you a breathing technique used in tantra specifically designed to help you deeply relax while being aroused.  It is highly effective, especially in conjunction with lomilomi.

Using this breath while being touched all over in a deeply sensual way,  you enter a beautiful, floaty, dreamy state that allows your arousal to float all through you.  Your blood is more oxygenated helping to spread sensation throughout your whole being, rather than only focusing in the genital area.   Don’t fret!  Your cock will get plenty of attention too! I use a special tantric technique called a lingham massage that includes lots of different cock strokes designed to bring pleasure without tipping you over the edge before the end.

Onc eyou are both aroused and relaxed, I  then thoroughly massage your anal area externally, teasing, building tension and pleasure… before gently entering you.  I don’t force anything.   This is a no pain method.  I gently massage that second sphincter and I only enter when you body invites me to enter.

Artemisia de Vine

Artemisia de Vine

The Art of Prostate Massage

Once you are open I begin massaging internally.  Your prostate is the male G spot and like the female G spot it can be quite illusive.  It actually feels different at different levels of arousal.  This means that once you are aroused it is going to feel a whole lot different to when you doctor examines you!  It also means that you will experience changing sensations through your G spot during your massage.

Each person is different and enjoys different types of strokes… tapping, rubbing, thrusting, rolling… Some prefer vigorous in and out motion and others prefer much more of a gentle, circular motion.  I take the time to explore this with you so you can discover just what kind of pleasure your prostate is capable of and what works best for you.

I have learned the art of anal massage from Joseph Kramer himself who is world-renowned as a leader in teaching the most exquisite of anal pleasures.

erotic massage Sydney busty blonde plussize prostate CEAMindful Embodiment and Erotic Trance

Anal massage is one of the most relaxing forms of arousal.  It’s not that urgent needy arousal that is cock-centred.  Instead it builds slower but deeper, and spreads out further through your body.  With practice, it can lead to a kind of erotic trance.  You are still in full control, but like in meditation, your mind stops chattering and you become one with the sensations.   It’s a form of embodied, mindful erotic experience where you are noticing every little sensation.

With some practice and a few more tantric techniques, you can learn to enter into aroused ecstatic states of consciousness too.

Anal Orgasm

Some people can orgasm from anal stimulation alone.  It is a different kind of orgasm that doesn’t necessarily include ejaculation but rather ripples through you like a slow motion bass drum.  Just as female bodies can have clitoris-centric orgasms and G spot orgasms (and many other kinds), so can male bodies.  It takes experience, patience and deep relaxation to achieve though you will notice the pleasure leading in that direction on your first massage.  Some lucky people achieve anal orgasms first try!

Tantric Genital Massage

My massages also include lots of delicious tantric cock & ball massage techniques and you do have an opportunity to climax if that is what you would like.  Some choose not to ejaculate but instead use Taoist technique to have a sort of internal orgasm, spreading the arousal around inside without losing any of it or experiencing a “drop” like you do after an external ejaculation.

Artemisia de Vine

Artemisia de Vine

What happens in a session?

My sessions are far more than just a rub and tug.  They are a whole being experience.  From the moment you enter my lush play space  you are welcomed with a exotic tea and nibbles, made to feel comfortable and taught skills needed to explore your anal pleasure even deeper.   You then have an unhurried, luxurious time on the table where you are free to open up and be your true erotic self.

For this reason, my sessions are a minimum of 90mins and ideally 2 hours.  Details here…

From Finger to Anal Fisting

These sessions suit beginners and anal enthusiasts alike.  I offer sessions from finger to fisting and can include toys if that is what you body is ready for.   If you are more interested in pegging, you may be interested in my blog Let’s Talk Strap Ons: Discover your Pegging Style. 

dominatrix strap on 1I heard you also do a Kinky version of this?

Yes youheard right!  I am also very experienced in kink play and have a whole other side to me.   If you would like to see my Kinky Massage for beginners See here… I  have developed a tie and tease version of the above massage where you are blind folded and tied to the table.  When you take away one sense, the others are all ignited, alert and alive…  This session is still sensual but it is a feast of the senses.  It allows for various types of kinky explorations… you can include anal play or not, it’s up to you… Perhaps some light spanking… unexpected sensations… your excitement builds as you don’t know what is going to happen next and you have no choice but to lie back and receive.

If you want to see my much more full on, BDSM & kink website its here…

Where are you located and do you tour?

I am based in Glebe, Sydney but frequently tour Canberra and Melbourne.  I may make it to other capital cites too so please do join my mailing list to find out when I am in your area.

Sounds Great!  Where do I sign up?
Session details here…   But please also take the time to read the reviews from previous clients below.

Artemisia de Vine

Artemisia de Vine

Reviews from Previous Clients

“Just a huge thank you again for so generously indulging me in your tender arm and hands (and more) this morning. It was a beautifully unique and blissful experience. I walked around all day with an enormous smile on my face. Mmmm. Can’t wait to see you again. It was really very special. You have unique skills and I’m so glad you share them. One happy Sydney guy.” -Erotic massage/girlfriend experience deluxe combo

“so, finding myself with some spare time and in need of some creative relaxation, i found myself drawn to artemisia’s website (then avika). Luckily for me she could see me at an agreeable time,and so arrangements were made. She styles herself as offering a premium erotic massage, and that is completely delivered. In looks she is rubenesque, in manner she is both charming and forthright, and her massage is both relaxing, and ultimately wildly erotic. If you want a supermodel pretending to care while focussing on the clock, go elsewhere. Artemisia is a voluptuous provider of erotic pleasure, and clearly enjoys what she does. Ill be back. Cheers. N (43 yrs)”

“That was unbelievable!  I have no words.  You are an erotic choreographer.  I really have no words”. – G Sydney 2013

“I’m just coming off the high from the other day… you can put this on your website. I had the pleasure to spend an hour of absolute bliss with this lady, she took me on a journey that I hadn’t been before an felt like I could touch the sky, it was a great experience and one that I would love to experience again.” ‘D’ – Cairns 2012

“SO much more than a rub and tug. I feel like I’ve finally been touched the way I always wanted to be touched but never knew I wanted if that makes sense? If you want a cheap rub an tug, go somewhere else. If you want someone who can take you to places for real, go see Artemisia”. Ron – 2012 Cairns

“I can honestly say that I got so much more than I expected. I didn’t know I could feel that way” – Ben 38yo South Australia 2012

“Best. Massage. EVER. You can quote me on that”. Greg, Byron Bay 2011

“I used to be a professional masseur and I can tell you that Artemisia’s (sessions) are a rare treat. Her touch is so soft and sensual. She really knows what she’s doing” – Surfer Matt, Lismore 2011

“I had the need and went to visit Artemisia (was Avika) for a bit of relief but got so much more than that. I dunno how to say really. She’s something special this one”. – Arron 50 Melbourne 2010

“Artemisia my dear, I have never had anyone put so much effort and feeling into their service! Some ladies charge a premium for their service and its hardly worth it. You are worth every penny.” Rob 57, Cairns 2012

“Having known Artemisia for several years I was intrigued when she started offering erotic massages, but felt her descriptions gave me little idea what to expect. Now having had one I think that is because they are almost beyond description. What I can say is that if you are just chasing pleasure with a beautiful woman you will have a fine time, but have plenty of choices elsewhere. If you want to learn new things about yourself, about sex and joy and how you can experience your body in new ways you may never have imagined then Artemisia offers all that, and you may have trouble finding it elsewhere.” – Stephen, Scientist, 42, Melbourne, 2012

 

“Artemisia is an important part of the sexual revolution, it is an honor to know her. I like the fact that she has respect for herself, and respect for her clients, and won’t accept people who can’t play by both those rules. In doing so, she sets up a far more meaningful, pleasurable and holistic exchange. I think this is what the world is really lusting for, and Artemisia is the perfect person to be in that role. I love hearing about how she takes the time to genuinely connect with people, and stay with them on their journey of sexual discovery. And the way she finds beauty, wherever it may be hiding. Engage her intellectually and you will pleased on many levels! Finally, as a sex-positive educator and pro kinkster, she knows everything there is to know about subjects that most people have never heard of. Highly recommended!” – Chris Even

 

 

 

 

 

Mar 172013
 

FanOne can listen to music while bopping around doing the chores and feel energised and pleasurable. It’s fun, good for you and healthy. However to consciously engage with music takes it to another level again. To give each note your full attention and feel each note fill and move your body, your emotions and indeed your whole being can take you to another world. You can become one with the music. Your mind stops chattering and your ego takes a back seat… You can more deeply connect with your authenticity, embodied wisdom and personal bliss.

One can apply this same principle to the full spectrum of erotic arts: from erotic massage to sex to BDSM and much more. I specialise in sessions and workshops that focus on the techniques to more deeply engage in our sexuality. Sex is already great. To learn techniques drawn from tantra, Taoism, sexological bodywork, mindfulness and body-mind therapies to more consciously engage with it, takes it to another level again. This doesn’t just apply to the “making love” style of erotic intimacy but to all aspects of our erotic wiring including those forbidden and completely politically incorrect fantasies and consensual power play games.

Sex, like emotion, is a primal force within us that has one foot in the conscious mind and one in the subconscious. It’s not about linear logic… It speaks a different language… the language of dreams. This can be scary. We’ve all encountered people who are in an aroused state of consciousness and yet they are being unconsciously driven by it rather than consciously engaging with it and it can feel really unpleasant and invasive.

We can engage with our anger consciously or let it control us like a bush fire… same with sexuality. This doesn’t lesson the pleasure, oh no! Conscious sexuality, without a doubt, magnifies all that we hold dear about our eroticism.

When BDSM and/or sex is engaged consciously, we access our most authentic personal expression and become fully present in each moment. Remarkable experiences can happen from this place. It is different from session to session depending on intent, unique erotic wiring of participants and the mood on the day. Outcomes can be any of the following:

* An experience of deeper, whole being, erotic pleasure
* Connecting and flowing in companionship and playfulness
* Healing
* Personal transformation
* Deeper intimacy
* A journey of self discovery
* Ecstatic states of consciousness

All workshops and sessions operate from a place of consent and respect with an intent to engage even more of our erotic potential. To achieve this we need trust and healthy boundaries. For this purpose there is a free consultation before each session to establish this.

So why have I used the word “conscious” instead of “spiritual”? Even though I identify as a spiritual sexual being, I think that sometimes people are put off by the spiritual language commonly used when talking about tantra.  I certainly don’t identify with a lot of the meaning placed on tantric experience by others. However I have found that the techniques and experiences themselves are potent and powerful no matter your worldview. It is relevant to people who identify as non spiritual and spiritual alike. All you need is a willingness to engage more consciously and fully with your unique erotic wiring and expression. If this appeals to you then these sessions are for you.

I see my work as an outpouring of passion that has stemmed from my own personal journey. My explorations and adventures have led to many insights and discoveries that have helped me to move beyond our cultural wide sex-shame epidemic and into a mind blowing and authentic relationship with my own eroticism. This passion has manifested in professionally facilitating and engaging with other people’s explorations in this arena. Primarily this includes taking one on one sessions as a Dominatrix (and occasional switch), Erotic bodyworker (massage), Somatic sex educator and Erotic ritualist. I also occasionally offer sessions as an Erotic Companion (private escort).

 For those interested in the conscious exploration of kink and BDSM, please see my other site, Conscious Kink, here.