One can listen to music while bopping around doing the chores and feel energised and pleasurable. It’s fun, good for you and healthy. However to consciously engage with music takes it to another level again. To give each note your full attention and feel each note fill and move your body, your emotions and indeed your whole being can take you to another world. You can become one with the music. Your mind stops chattering and your ego takes a back seat… You can more deeply connect with your authenticity, embodied wisdom and personal bliss.
One can apply this same principle to the full spectrum of erotic arts: from erotic massage to sex to BDSM and much more. I specialise in sessions and workshops that focus on the techniques to more deeply engage in our sexuality. Sex is already great. To learn techniques drawn from tantra, Taoism, sexological bodywork, mindfulness and body-mind therapies to more consciously engage with it, takes it to another level again. This doesn’t just apply to the “making love” style of erotic intimacy but to all aspects of our erotic wiring including those forbidden and completely politically incorrect fantasies and consensual power play games.
Sex, like emotion, is a primal force within us that has one foot in the conscious mind and one in the subconscious. It’s not about linear logic… It speaks a different language… the language of dreams. This can be scary. We’ve all encountered people who are in an aroused state of consciousness and yet they are being unconsciously driven by it rather than consciously engaging with it and it can feel really unpleasant and invasive.
We can engage with our anger consciously or let it control us like a bush fire… same with sexuality. This doesn’t lesson the pleasure, oh no! Conscious sexuality, without a doubt, magnifies all that we hold dear about our eroticism.
When BDSM and/or sex is engaged consciously, we access our most authentic personal expression and become fully present in each moment. Remarkable experiences can happen from this place. It is different from session to session depending on intent, unique erotic wiring of participants and the mood on the day. Outcomes can be any of the following:
* An experience of deeper, whole being, erotic pleasure
* Connecting and flowing in companionship and playfulness
* Personal transformation
* Deeper intimacy
* A journey of self discovery
* Ecstatic states of consciousness
All workshops and sessions operate from a place of consent and respect with an intent to engage even more of our erotic potential. To achieve this we need trust and healthy boundaries. For this purpose there is a free consultation before each session to establish this.
So why have I used the word “conscious” instead of “spiritual”? Even though I identify as a spiritual sexual being, I think that sometimes people are put off by the spiritual language commonly used when talking about tantra. I certainly don’t identify with a lot of the meaning placed on tantric experience by others. However I have found that the techniques and experiences themselves are potent and powerful no matter your worldview. It is relevant to people who identify as non spiritual and spiritual alike. All you need is a willingness to engage more consciously and fully with your unique erotic wiring and expression. If this appeals to you then these sessions are for you.
I see my work as an outpouring of passion that has stemmed from my own personal journey. My explorations and adventures have led to many insights and discoveries that have helped me to move beyond our cultural wide sex-shame epidemic and into a mind blowing and authentic relationship with my own eroticism. This passion has manifested in professionally facilitating and engaging with other people’s explorations in this arena. Primarily this includes taking one on one sessions as a Dominatrix (and occasional switch), Erotic bodyworker (massage), Somatic sex educator and Erotic ritualist. I also occasionally offer sessions as an Erotic Companion (private escort).
For those interested in the conscious exploration of kink and BDSM, please see my other site, Conscious Kink, here.